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are wentworth miller and luke macfarlane dating??
OMG I think my heart just exploded with squeeeeeeeeee!!
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my favourite thing at bedtime
is to go to sleep in the middle of a book. I try to avoid finishing a book right before I sleep, because then I don't have that delicious feeling of saving some book for the next day when I wake up. The downers will say all good things must come to an end, but I like the idea that some stories will never be over. If you can sleep every night completely at peace with no ties to the world, there's less reason to wake up again the next morning. Or maybe I have that the other way around - if you have no more loose story ends to tie up, you can die anytime without worry.
But a worry-free life? What fun would that be? :)
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cheongsam chores
I think it all boils down to me being too greedy.
See, I really want a nice cheongsam for my wedding. I was going to wear it at the tea ceremonies at my house and Shiyao's in the morning, so I thought I would get something breezy and light and knee-length so I could show my legs (heehee). So I designed my own and got a shop here to make it. But they screwed it up with the wrong fabric (appears to be a miscommunication) and a weird design at the back (because they said my original instruction was undoable). And now I'm trying to decide whether I should just settle for it or get a new one made, which would cost anything from $500 to $1200 more.
And also my own requirements have changed. Now I'm thinking, maybe I should have made a full-length one so I can wear it at night also, during the goodbye reception. I saw a gorgeous full-length cheongsam at a shop the other day and I can't stop thinking about it. But having to change outfits a second time during dinner (I already have one change: wedding gown for first half and evening gown for second half) means I will have less time to mingle, and if I get all sweaty wearing the cheongsam during the tea ceremony I don't really think I want to re-wear it at dinner anyway.
So now I'm trying to see if the original cheongsam I made is salvageable, in which case I will just wear that for tea and not wear a cheongsam during dinner and try to forget the beautiful full-length cheongsam that flirted with me. But if it turns out that I can't save my first cheongsam, then I can make another one. Which would be too late for my photoshoot at the end of this month anyway.
Sigh I knew it. Plan so far ahead, still got screwup at the end one.
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avoiding home has its benefits
It started off as a crap day - I woke up feeling sick and was late for work, and the moment I turned on my laptop it died on me. When I went to see the doctor I had to wait for half an hour, and then the receptionist let the guy who came after me go in first, which made me so pissed off I walked out. Lunch was a crappy rushed affair of takeaway duck noodles because I had a facial appointment. And although the facial was not too bad, I forgot to pay for the "ampoule" and have to go back on Wednesday to do so. Wrote two forgettable stories and was given a 8.30am assignment in town tomorrow - the worst kind.
But then I had a couple of interesting conversations and a good genuine talk with a colleague during dinner that made me feel strangely sad but happy at the same time. I had time to spare before meeting Shiyao at 11, so I dropped by the Coffee Bean near his house to have tea and read my book. And as I opened the door to the al fresco seating area, tray in hand, Philip was on the other side, and I laughed at the sheer ridiculous coincidence of it all. Later Dom, who had been having dinner across the road, came by.
The little moments that make you feel alive.
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happy
There are a lot of things in this world I have to be thankful for, but primary among all of them are, I think, my friends. I've been told, repeatedly by people who believe they have "better" friends, that my friendships are not as strong or as real as theirs. But time and time again I realise how wonderful my friends are, both as friends and as people, and how lucky I am to have them.
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On open-mindedness
People say being open-minded is a good thing. But they also say you should have values. So how do you reconcile having fixed standpoints on certain issues while saying you're not closed off to all other alternatives?
For a while, but especially recently, I've been struggling a lot with this. And my conclusion, decided only about two hours ago, is that you can only be as open-minded as your intrinsic values allow you to be. At this point I'm sure some people will say there's no such thing - or at least there shouldn't be such a thing - as "intrinsic" values. Individual experience creates some values, society dictates the rest. So values are only as universal as the majority decides at that time.
But I believe that individual values are formed at a relatively young age, say during your teenage years, and that they don't change much after that, barring extenuating circumstances such as a sudden traumatic episode. So you can try to convince yourself to be as truly open-minded as possible, but the scope of that possibility has already been determined fairly early on. By "open-minded" I mean being able to understand, accept, AND adopt the views in question. For instance, if you are "open-minded" about other people having an abortion, but you wouldn't do it yourself; if you are tolerant of polygamy, but you would never enter into a polygamous relationship - that's not "true" open-mindedness by my (deliberately narrow) definition.
The sort of open-mindedness that allows you to let other people have their own views while staying convinced of your own is a compromised open-mindedness, which is what most of us live with. And I think that in order to really feel comfortable with and get close to someone, they have to have a similar version of open-mindedness as you. Having to explain why you hold certain immutable values - pro-choice, pro-gay, pro-monogamy - is healthy, but feeling forced to always justify them to someone who really doesn't understand because he or she doesn't have that value (and, often, doesn't want to) is just too draining to be beneficial in any way.
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